I am delighted to welcome Mx Nillin to the Kink of the Week blog with this fabulous piece about their thoughts and experiences when it comes to wearing feminine underwear.

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“Hi, my name is Mx Nillin! I’m not a man, I’m a non-binary queer, but I’ve ALWAYS been a big fan of cocks in panties so this prompt was really exciting to see.

Ever since I started blogging at Mx Nillin.com I’ve worked to be inclusive of crossdressers, traps, sissies (and sissification play), femboys, and more, all because those communities and identities were actually integral to how I initially explored my sexuality while growing up.

In fact, long before coming out I used to crossdress a lot and at that time being transgender was the furthest thing from my mind. The whole concept of being trans was just completely unknown to me and any deeper thought of gender and identity were simply way beyond what I was willing to consider. So crossdressing was 100% all about the sexual thrill and excitement of wearing frilly, lacy, and/or silky lingerie for me. I’d become unbelievably aroused as soon as I felt the fabric start to settle around my hips, and over my erection.

Sadly, during my personal exploration of gender, and through my coming out process, I often encountered a lot of vitriol and anger about those who don’t follow the popular trans narratives of fully transitioning. Like, there’s a lot of folks, even in the greater queer community, who outright demonize crossdressers, sissies, and femboys as being perverts and degenerates. Not anything like “real” LGBTQ people.

And that sucks! It’s really frustrating to constantly see marginalized, vulnerable groups vilify and throw each other under the bus in the name of progress and acceptance for themselves. Honestly, encountering those mentalities lead to me feeling a lot of guilt, shame, and pressure to transition according to a narrative that didn’t feel right for me. It made me feel unwelcome, or like an imposter, in a lot if supposedly inclusive communities.

I don’t want to contribute toward anyone else experiencing that either. You can 100% just love the way panties look or feel on your junk. You can strictly be into wearing gendered lingerie as a kink and still be welcome in my queer social circles!

Because even though sexy panties and bras are more ingrained in my general sense of self than just being for sexual gratification, I’d be lying if I said that the sensation of a really great pair still didn’t get my girl cock hard too.

So, shout out to all those with a penis who are exploring, experimenting, or just getting off on how fucking awesome and subversive it feels. Ya’ll are valid too!”